If you’ve been with me a minute, you know I’m on a journey to pivot my work after retiring in October of 2020.
But we’re in a pandemic. Every person around, every plan, every continency plan is subject to change.
Which is all to be expected, right?
But sometimes I get caught up into the I saw things going differently mindset.
I saw things getting easier.
Or I thought things at work would end smoothly and on a positive note, or I’d always envisioned this to be a more relaxed and sentimental time.
But it seems it cannot be helped. The world is upside-down.
I read an email from HerStories Project, who quoted a terrific piece by a fierce young writer:
‘ “In “Why Gen-X Women Are Furious,” Lynn Shattuck writes,
‘All the women I know bear the brunt of the fallout from the pandemic. All the women I know are exhausted and depressed and furious. All the women I know are trying their best to solve the bulging, overripe problems of the world, clumped in with our new pandemic problems as if they were a Rubik’s cube handed just to us.
‘Here, fix this thing,’ the world demands.
We stare at the sides: Pandemic. Racism. Health care. Climate change. Education. Social Security.
Just as we eyed our once-glimmering futures, we think, where do we even start?
And beneath the rage, we’re so, so sad.
Because we thought we could be whoever we wanted to be.’”
For me, I do well to rush to graveyards when the world presses down. It’s the first place I go when solo-traveling. In Paris. In Buenos Aires. In Barrow. And now, at home in Alaska.
Monday, I dropped my youngest daughter off for a doctor appointment and trotted over to the cemetery in downtown Anchorage. Immediately, I intersected with a young man I’d not met there before.
Zane, I later learned from Google, was a fifteen year-old who died long ago of heart issues. And while I knew he didn’t write his own headstone, it was as though he was speaking to me. I felt my shoulders lighten.
How fortunate am I to have some life left for a re-boot? Zane’s message was a perfect reminder to re-evaluate how much energy I want to give to things I can’t control, and how much energy I’ll happily devote to places I can make a difference.
My three lunch hour takeaways were:
- We can be fearful, but why? Our time is so limited. The worst that can happen is we try and fail. And hopefully, choose to keep trying.
- Nothing has ever been under our control. Our influence? Sure. But not our control.
- There’s no guarantee that things will get easier. So we need to sally forward and make our impact, and push for what’s important.
Within 60 minutes, I slipped back to pick my daughter up, strangely refreshed. It feels fitting to end my career working with teens, and finally guided out of it by the wisdom of a teen.
SO, against conventional wisdom, I’ve decided to host my first webinar on September 27, 2020 at 9AM Alaska time, and another on the following Friday, October 2nd at 7 AM to introduce my new course on Teachable, When Push Comes to Shove: Stay Safe and Sane and Say the Right Thing When Someone You Know is Being Abused, launching mid October.
Feel free to join in, and enjoy a conversation and Q & A. And please, invite your friends. I could use the encouragement, wobbling with technology. 🙂
Life does go on. Together, we’ll still find meaning and humor, more sadness and growth. Until it inevitably ends.
Life is still a gift. Let’s not waste it.
Connect with you soon, I hope, and thank you for stopping by.